Following up on the day-before-yesterday’s post, m,poulet reiterated his rules to me by email today so that I wouldn’t have beer on the brain when trying to recall them. Here they are in all their ovine glory 🙂
1/ Don’t make more than one enemy at a time, i.e. pick your battles. Being just a tad vocal and direct, I have a really hard time with this one. I am really going to try to take a chill pill next time I am working up to a fight (see my anger management post)
2/ Use Judo, i.e. befell your enemy by using his own weight. This one is all about finesse and I am really not big on finesse personally. Basically, when challenged by someone try to turn the tables on them rather than raising your voice or getting pissed off. I am giving this one a lot of thought these days because it does not resolve anything to get angry and loud. Like I said, for me, this one is a work in progress.
3/ You never have to respond right away. Once again, m.poulet seems to have hit nearly all of my weak spots. I am soooo guilty of trigger-happy emails from my iPhone or iPad. While it is good for getting my average response time low on Xobni, it can be detrimental when the response is slightly (or more) angry or annoyed. It is true that other than a life or death situation, nothing is really necessary to get done IMMEDIATELY and that even an hour is probably enough time to think things over and chill before penning a response. Just wish I would apply this one more often. Actually, I should force myself to wait at least an hour before replying to mail that hacks me off. Well, I’ll give it a shot and let you know.
My dear readers, what do you think? Is this just so bleeding obvious or is it sound advice or perhaps it is all just poppycock?